I want to be a doc more than anything, but when I think of how hard it will be on my family I feel guilt for still wanting it. Here is what’s bothering me:
- I hate my job, but I am the breadwinner and really have no choice but to work right now. Sparing you all the long explanation, I feel like I make no difference in the world at my job. I want to help people, somehow improve someone’s life. Instead I deal with red tape and coworkers who love to backstab people, plus I’m having moral doubts on the direction they want my research to go in. Even though I hate being there, I work very hard for my boss (who is great). I know if I stay there, I will have lots of opportunities to move up the chain. People think I’m crazy for even considering leaving this job. Also, by quitting for med school we lose our health insurance (can you get family health coverage through med school?).
-My hubby agreed to consider me going to med school provided we can get loans to cover some of our living expenses while in school. Is it possible to get loans to replace part of your income while in med school? If you did get income replacement loans, would you have to start paying them during residency or could they be defered?
-We have 2 beautiful kids (twins, will turn 3 in Nov) and I’m afraid that if I go the med school route I will not be there for them when they need me. How did you guys who are parents deal with this? I don’t want my happiness to come at the expense of my kids.
I’ve always wanted to be a doctor but I never applied before due to low undergrad gpa (~2.9). I’m working on my M.S in chemistry now (gpa ~3.7, should complete in about a year) and I’m hoping that will make a difference and partially make up for such embarrasing grades in undergrad. At this point I’m planning to apply for the 2009 or 2010 school year.
Have any of you felt guilt about wanting to be a doctor? If so, how did you come to terms with it? Sorry for the whining, I just had to get it out. I’ve had these concerns on my mind for weeks now. Any advice you guys could share would be great!