I wanted to start by thanking everyone on here for sharing their stories, if it wasn’t for this message board I would have assumed that non-trad wasn’t possible.
I have a few questions that don’t often come up because they’re complicated questions about starting this journey with a family.
Questions
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1. how is everyone emotionally during the process (pre-med,med school, residency) in regards to the impact on their family?
2. Did you geographically restrict yourself to your immediate area or did you move with your family? I have 3 med schools within a few hours of me but one is a reach school so realistically 2 (may apply farther depending on if moving is an option at that point).
3. How do you financially make it work? obviously there are loans for expenses but have a family means we have more expenses than most? Does your spouse work?
4. Has anyone had a wife that wasn't supportive? (mine is supportive but hesitant)
5. Did you make the switch because of financial reasons or because this was your calling? I'm asking because I make plenty of money(around 100k) but am not happy.
6. Do/did you own a house? if so did you sell it when you went to med school to lower costs(assuming you didn't already move)?
To elaborate on my questions
Obviously we have supportive families but I can't help but feel guilty about the sacrifice I'm asking my family to make. I feel selfish asking my family to adjust and possibly move for my dream.
I'm currently an Engineer. There is nothing wrong with my current profession(in demand,pay is good, etc) but it isn't what I wanted to do... it's just where life lead me. In undergrad, I originally wanted to go to medical school. I took a few pre-reqs and got A's but somewhere in there I talked myself out of it. My wife(gf at the time) wanted a family, I didn't believe in myself, felt rushed to start working, etc.
A little bit of background
I'm in my early 30's. I have 2 bachelors degrees and am mid way through a masters degree(engineering related). I have a wife and 2 kids (3 y/o and newborn). My timeline/gameplan is to finish up my masters and then take the rest of pre-reqs, this should put me at about 5 years from now when I start applying. The gameplan is to have my wife stay home from now until both kids are in school, then when she goes back to work, I go to med school.
As for why medicine, I've wanted to be a doctor as long as I can remember(I know, cliche.) I've always wanted to figure out why things happened medically. When people had illnesses, I started googling to figure out why.
As for what re-sparked my interest now, when my first child was born, the pregnancy/delivery was a little rough (high risk/premature delivery, etc.) During this scary/emotion time, we had several awesome docs that really helped us through. Same thing with our pediatrician, he did his first visit as a home visit and gave us his personal cell and email. It was the first time where a physician built a relationship with us instead of just scheduling appointments and treating illness. To this day I can text our pediatrician and ask him "is this normal?" although, I try not to because I know hes busy. I want to do that. Edit: I forgot to add that the baby is healthy today, no issues!
My current cumulative gpa is some where around 3.3 (3.24 in first bsc, 3.2 in second bsc, 4.0 in masters) By my calculations if I can get 4.0 through rest of masters and all prereqs, I should be around 3.5 cumulative. I know amcas breaks that down by ug/postbacc/grad but I have no idea how that works if I have 2 undergrad degrees(they were done at separate time, not as part of a dual degree program).
I know this is long but I'm thankful to anyone that reads it and give insight.