Hi, I posted this as studentdoctor as well but figured there would be more expertise concentrated here. There are a lot of posts about holding a marriage together but none that I could find about dating. Here goes: I’m a non-trad (37 year old second year) who’s recently divorced (no kids) and wants to start dating again. Big surprise for me: I thought this would be easy, considering I did pretty well in this department before getting married, but so far, zero success. (You’re probably wondering, so: I didn’t physically fall apart during marriage, I’m in-shape, physically active and sociable, not bald, no gray hair, etc.) Any advice or thoughts are appreciated. So far here are the “approaches” I’ve thought of:
- Women at my school are nice, attractive, not crazy, but are all younger of course and seem to regard me as basically a curiosity. So that hasn’t worked.
- Local women outside the medical school? This was my next thought, but it’s gone nowhere. In my city, there’s no value placed on “intellectualness”, so women don’t seem impressed by that aspect of medicine. Even so, being a single doctor at 37 would probably be a good thing. But for a single medical student at 37, women seem to be either confused (“Wait, I thought you said you were a doctor? Well how are you still in school now?”) or just not interested.
- Residents? Attendings? Haven’t tried this, but if a woman is going to cross the boundary of dating a junior (in terms of authority) wouldn’t they rather date the 24 year old future radiologist than the 37 year old?
- Undergrads? Probably not. If I’m too old even for graduate students, undergrads would contact the authorities if I started flirting.
My real concern is that I’m stuck in a weird age bracket that means at 44 when I’m done with my residency, I’ll suddenly be marketable only because I’m making money, and I would think only gold-diggers will be interested in LTRs at that point.